the other thing about the whole “gay people do, in fact, sit around all day talking about how incredibly gay we are” thing is that straight people do this all the time too. they just don’t have to be explicit about it because they’re the default.
they spend at least as much time as us talking about romance, sex, even gender related stuff as it relates to their sexuality and expected gender roles. they just don’t have to say “omggggg im so straight for that boy” because that part is taken for granted.