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neatoburritolesbian:

If you really think about it, 99% of MOGAI identities are useless.

By mogai identities I mean the ones like “cupioromantic/sexual” or “requiesromantic/sexual”.

Sexual/romantic identities are already too confusing to go around searching for another 15 labels just to feel “valid”. 

If you’re a lesbian it doesn’t mean that you always feel sexually attracted to girls, or that all girls look pretty for you, or that you find all men repulsive. It means that you only want to date girls. That’s all. Everyone has different experiences. No one feels love or sexual attraction the same way. 

If I go into a mogai sexual/romantic attraction masterlist, I could easily identify at least with 10 labels. 

Example: I could identify as “Idemromantic”(

a romantic orientation that finds difficulty in distinguishing platonic and romantic attraction, but can usually figure it out by usuing other factors. ), because when I start falling in love with someone, I wonder if I just want to be their friend or if im really attracted to them. You know why I don’t go around labeling myself as Idemromantic? Because it’s not necessary. Why would I ever need to say im Idemromantic? It would only make me more confused about my identity, because feelings change, my relationships change. Maybe that girl I met last year made me confused when trying to figure out if i wanted something romantic with her or not. But this girl I met last month doesn’t make me feel like that. Should I stop identifying as idemromantic? am i still valid?

That’s what i’m trying to say. Most of mogai identities are based on how the person experiences sexual/romantic attraction, which, I must say, it’s pretty useless since every single person on this planet has different experiences and feelings. 

Sexual and romantic orientations are about who you love, not how you love.

Terms like gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual and heterosexual exist because it helps to clarify which genders the person feels attracted to. If a guy asks me on a date I will thell him im not interested in it because im a lesbian, and that might clarify that I only want to date girls. If someone goes into a dating app and puts in their profile they’re pansexual, that helps to clarify they could date a person of any gender.

You don’t know how stressful it is to be a 13 y.o on tumblr watching everyone label themselves with at least 5 terms (regarding their sexual/romantic attraction). I was just coming to terms with my lesbian identity, but I felt like I should put more labels on me, because it was more “progressive”.

No one should go trough that. No one should feel pressured to label themselves in every aspect of their sexual and romantic life. 

Well said, my dude.