antiblackness:

i feel like everybody has potential to change and grow but if you’re an abuser people have the right to remember and know you only as that because that’s part of who you are, and the results of your treatment are apart of who you made your victims become. once you’re abusive you can’t take it back and say “i’ve changed” you literally ruined somebody’s life, to them you’ll always be an abuser and it’s not something you can decide to say you aren’t anymore. you don’t make those calls.