nothowiplanned:

shitamigay:

mogai is such a mess bc so many of the sexualities there……..,,, are not sexualities?

like they’re ways someone wishes to express/not express sexual acts eg placiosexuality, lithosexuality etc

and a sexuality…. is not that. they’re about sexual attraction. in defining myself as bisexual i tell you nothing about my sex life, and honestly the idea of a group of people encouraging other people – mostly teenagers, lbr – to identify themselves by the way they wish to have sex? is super dodgy????

like if someone asks you how you identify, and you say placiosexual, most people don’t know what that is, so you have to explain how you prefer to have sex. not who you are attracted to, just. how you have sex. and something about that makes me very uncomfortable

i think this makes me uncomfortable because lgb people have spent so long trying to convince Straight People that our orientations aren’t just a sex thing, so to then be lumped in with terms that are exclusively about how you like to have sex is just…no. stop. you’re hurting us.