lesbiancrushes:

a lot of the lesbians that i personally know, myself included, don’t like being called q*eer because it feels like it’s somehow leaving our sexualities up for debate. it feels like people are scared of the finality of “lesbian.” if i’m a lesbian, that means no men, whatsoever. i love women and women-aligned people. but if i’m q*eer, that can leave so much to your imagination. maybe i like men, maybe i don’t. maybe it’s just my gender up for discussion, maybe it’s just that i don’t fit the status quo. going out of your way to call all lesbians q*eer instead of lesbians means that you don’t respect our right to the only identity that has ever truly felt like it’s fit us. i don’t want to be called q*eer for several reasons, but i especially don’t want to be called it OVER lesbian.