a lot of the lesbians that i personally know, myself included, don’t like being called q*eer because it feels like it’s somehow leaving our sexualities up for debate. it feels like people are scared of the finality of “lesbian.” if i’m a lesbian, that means no men, whatsoever. i love women and women-aligned people. but if i’m q*eer, that can leave so much to your imagination. maybe i like men, maybe i don’t. maybe it’s just my gender up for discussion, maybe it’s just that i don’t fit the status quo. going out of your way to call all lesbians q*eer instead of lesbians means that you don’t respect our right to the only identity that has ever truly felt like it’s fit us. i don’t want to be called q*eer for several reasons, but i especially don’t want to be called it OVER lesbian.
today my prof said to my class “you don’t truly love someone until they’ve hurt you and you still think of them as the greatest person in the world. Love is the most violent act.” ok ok ok
men are so fucking weird and scary? don’t let any man ever convince you love is supposed to be painful or violent. don’t let any man justify his wrongful actions by saying they’re just part of what True Love is.
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