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reputationlesbian:

i really hate what weaponised feminity has done to this site because someone will write, like, an informative post about how damaging the beauty industry is or a criticism on the fact that the makeup industry is telling literal children that they need to have perfect contour and wear revealing clothing to be pretty, and someone on here that is unfamiliar with the concept of critical thinking will make a comment like “lmao this bitch is mad that me and a bunch of 13 year olds have better brows than she does.” and it’ll be seen as super witty and funny by a bunch of you because so many people on this site still think that 2014 “eyeliner sharp enough to kill a man posts” are peak feminism

alivedyke:

g-lorious-ly:

furiousgoldfish:

If parents teach a child with any method available that the child must be

  • submissive
  • extremely obedient
  • silent about their needs
  • always content with what they get, even if it’s much less than they need
  • pleasing to everyone around them
  • giving others what they want even when it’s harmful and painful to do so
  • expecting punishment at merely displeasuring someone
  • expecting pain as soon as they don’t meet someone’s expectations
  • not good enough unless they make everyone else happy
  • putting their needs last, or not having needs at all
  • extremely grateful for every little bit of human decency they get
  • best in the world in everything, or else they’re worthless
  • recognizing that people who hurt them most likely do it unintentionally or even worse, out of love
  • accepting hurtful behaviour without calling it out, complaining about it, or even letting the perpetrator know how much they got hurt
  • extremely forgiving, to the point where they forgive without even getting an apology, or with the hurtful offense still going on
  • tolerating insults, humiliation, slurs, and hatred being directed at them
  • never showing outright anger, rage, resentment, or hold a grudge
  • never fighting for their rights
  • never refusing to do what’s asked of them
  • accepting that they might be unlovable and that nobody will ever want them

then the child is being abused. It doesn’t matter if they use violence, guilt, terror, emotional abuse, brainwashing, threats, psychological abuse, punishment, discipline, harsh language, or if they teach it all to the child politely and with explanations to why they have to be like this if they don’t wish to be a burden on society. To shape a person this way out of convenience and send them off into a world that will abuse, exploit, take advantage and destroy a person like this, is abuse. Nobody needs to be any of these things. And people who aren’t any of these things still aren’t a burden on society. Abusive parents are a burden on society, and on their own children. Children aren’t there to be controlled or used by adults. Children are humans in development. Their boundaries should not be crushed before they even have a chance to develop any.

Psa. & thanks for setting me up to be exploited emotionally and professionally and sexualy for basically forever xxxxoooo

not forever tho! it’s difficult but fully possible to unlearn what ur parents/guardians taught u abt urself!